Have you ever run away from something? Have you ever hidden something? Perhaps you’ve looked the other way or denied something that was true? These are natural human instincts we each have. We often close our eyes and hide from things that are just too difficult to face. This isn’t because something is wrong with us. This isn’t because we’re guilty of having done something wrong. This is because, as humans, we live with many emotions and some of them cause us to do things we can’t easily understand. In reality, more often than not, we realize the thing we feared or ran away from wasn’t all that bad or harmful and we could have dealt with it when it first showed its face to us.
Two weeks ago, in פרשת תולדות/Parshat Toldot, we witnessed יעקב/YaAkov/Jacob, tricking his father and stealing his brother, עשו/Esau’s, blessing. This action put עשו into a rage and he wanted to kill יעקב. Since that time יעקב had been on the run. He had been running away from his troubles and living in fear. Quite some time has passed by this week’s Parsha, פרשת וישלח/Parshat VaYishlach. He had just left his father-in-law’s home after he worked for some 20 years and having had 11 sons and one daughter. So a great deal of time has gone by and now in this week’s reading יעקב was aware he was about to confront all he’d been running from. His brother, עשו, was in the area and there clearly had to be a reunion. יעקב was so scared he divided his household into many groups so not all of them would be killed at once by his vengeful brother. The fear was immense. The pain was immense. The worry was immense. יעקב believed himself to be in an existential crisis that could end his life. What happens when they finally met was breathtaking to say the least.
וַיִּשָּׂא יַעֲקֹב עֵינָיו וַיַּרְא וְהִנֵּה עֵשָׂו בָּא וְעִמּוֹ אַרְבַּע מֵאוֹת אִישׁ וַיַּחַץ אֶת־הַיְלָדִים עַל־לֵאָה וְעַל־רָחֵל וְעַל שְׁתֵּי הַשְּׁפָחוֹת׃ Looking up, Jacob saw Esau coming, accompanied by four hundred men. He divided the children among Leah, Rachel, and the two maids, וַיָּשֶׂם אֶת־הַשְּׁפָחוֹת וְאֶת־יַלְדֵיהֶן רִאשֹׁנָה וְאֶת־לֵאָה וִילָדֶיהָ אַחֲרֹנִים וְאֶת־רָחֵל וְאֶת־יוֹסֵף אַחֲרֹנִים׃ putting the maids and their children first, Leah and her children next, and Rachel and Joseph last. וְהוּא עָבַר לִפְנֵיהֶם וַיִּשְׁתַּחוּ אַרְצָה שֶׁבַע פְּעָמִים עַד־גִּשְׁתּוֹ עַד־אָחִיו׃ He himself went on ahead and bowed low to the ground seven times until he was near his brother. וַיָּרׇץ עֵשָׂו לִקְרָאתוֹ וַיְחַבְּקֵהוּ וַיִּפֹּל עַל־צַוָּארָו וַיִּשָּׁקֵהוּ וַיִּבְכּוּ׃ (בראשית לג:א-ד)
After all that fear, and all of that running, the reunion was not one of vengeance but one of brotherly love. That isn’t to say יעקב’s fears had been unfounded and irrational. It’s to say often the fear of the unknown is so much worse than the reality of the known. We run from things because we don’t understand them. We run from things because we worry about what could happen. We run because that’s how we best cope with the world in which we’re operating. With all of that said, perhaps there is a deeper lesson? Perhaps we all need to recognize that our instinct to flee too often holds us back. Perhaps our instinct to avoid delays our ability to grow. Perhaps our instinct to flee is there to help us survive, but hinders our ability to thrive.
With all of that said, we each need to recognize we carry too much around with us that we’re hiding from. We all too often run from something we could just deal with and move on from. While this behavior can’t be corrected 100%, we can work on ourselves and find moments where we can deal with and confront what we fear and gain back the time we would’ve wasted on those moments in the future. We can each take steps to confront our fears, both individually and collectively.
Kavanah is the Hebrew word for intentionality. It describes the goal of Jewish prayer, which is not just to read the words on the page, but to go deeper. This new Minyan will meet monthly from 10:30 - 11:30 am in the chapel. Come as you are and enjoy an abbreviated service of the greatest hits.
This new Minyan is perfect for anyone who wants:
To Learn more and become more comfortable with traditional prayer
Something different, or to get more out of their prayer experience
From beginner to expert, this service will have something for everyone.
At the end of the Kavanah Minyan, we’ll go back to the main sanctuary to hear Rabbi Hearshen’s sermon. At the conclusion of services, we’ll join the rest of the congregation for Kiddush lunch.
The first Kavanah Minyan will be on Saturday, December 21.
We promise to leave you inspired.
Hanukkah Bazaar
Thank you to everyone who volunteered at our 48th annual Hanukkah Bazaar last weekend and to all our guests. Over 1,000 people attended to enjoy Sephardic food, shopping and playing!
You may have received a Bazaar survey from Survey Monkey. If so, we ask you to complete the survey by Monday, December 17. Even if you didn't attend, you feedback is valuable and will be used to plan for next year. Save the Date for Bazaar 2025 Sunday, December 7, 2025!
BIRTHDAYS
Shabbat Albert Cohen Josh Hearshen Sunday Pescha Penso
Monday Aaron Carter Franco
Tuesday Eliana Geuli Layla Micah Benator
Wednesday Erin Wasileski
Friday Alan B. Cristal Leo Benator Martin Maslia
ANNIVERSARIES Shabbat Robert M. and Sara Franco
Meldados
Shabbat Nissim Galanti Anna Schatz Rozencwajg Sunday Victoria (Vida) Benezra
Monday Mendel Romm Rose Shuman Stella Maslia Yitzhak Mishaeli Louis Ruskin
Shabbat Together Shabbat, Apr 12th 10:30a to 11:30a Join us for our new Kavanagh Minyan & Children's Services the second Saturday each month. Following these services, we'll join the group in the Sanctuary for Rabbi Hearshen's sermon followed by Kiddush lunch.
It’s as easy as:
Inviting your friends and family for Shabbat Dinner, Taking a few photos, Sharing the photos with OVS & One Table And... Receiving a stipend for each person at your dinner.
Passover Picnic & a Walk in the Park Tuesday, Apr 15th 11:30a to 1:00p Bring your own picnic lunch and catch up your OVS friends. Join us for a walk along the boardwalk after we eat.
Exact location will be emailed prior to the picnic. Free of charge.
Building Blocks Sunday School 2025-2026 Sunday, Aug 17th 9:00a to 12:00p Building Blocks Sunday School at Congregation Or VeShalom is for children ages 2 - 12. Areas of focus include prayer, Jewish holidays, Jewish values, modern Hebrew, Hebrew reading, Israel, and Sephardic Jewish culture.
